Monday, October 15, 2012

Young and Married.

As the title explains, we get to discuss the terrible, wonderful, no good amazing life long sometimes ends in divorce contract covenant that is marriage. Could I fit enough individual definitions into that title? Everyone likes to view marriage in their own special way. Lets review a few:

Marriage: a choking contract that leaves you broken hearted and with half the cash

Marriage: an everlasting convenant that binds two souls to one another forever

Marriage: The legal status, condition, or relationship that results from a contract by which one man and one woman, who have the capacity to enter into such an agreement, mutually promise to live together in the relationship of Husband and Wife in law for life, or until the legal termination of the relationship.

Now which of these definitions do you suppose I find most accurate to my own standing. 
First lets go over my own life.

I met my husband at 18, he was 22. I was a student at a church camp and he was a youth leader. We spent time together for several weeks, without even a touch of lips in order to understand each other on a spiritual and emotional level first. 

What my husband has revealed to me in trust I will not reveal without permission, however I can tell you of my own decisions before I met him that June day. 

I had had a number of regretful and sad events happen to me in the years before. I had my heart broken in more ways than one and vowed to wait for the one I was to marry.

At 18 this was a big decision. A big fat crazy hopeless decision. But it was a wise choice indeed.

We met, engaged and married in less than 2 years.

Thats pure insanity and stupidity to most people.

I hear it all the time. The examples, excuses and reasons are endless. "your crazy to get married?" "You haven't matured into yourself yet." "How do you know you won't meet someone else?" "What about a career" "You dont have to get married, just live together"

Well I get sick of listening to that. I'm sorry but I don't recall ever asking for anyone else's opinion on my life choices.

Sure, I met a boy, fell in love and committed my life to him.

Not unusual.

What's unusual is that I was a mere 20 years when I tied the knot. 

The funny part is, that up until 30 years ago, it was not unusual at all.

Why is it that we are so arrogant to feel that we are so much more enlightened than another? 

My husband and I both love one another. With a love I wish others could experiance. I trust him, he trusts me. We committed. We both come from loving families, with two sets of parents still married. His mother at 18, father at 20. My mother at 21 and father at 23. Youngsters who didn't know what life would bring. Still in love and still committed 32 and 24 years later. If thats not a good example to follow, I don't know what else is. 

I have a best friend. His name is hubby, baby, sugar, honey. I am elated that I can spend a lifetime with him. I hope you can be happy for that. I would be for you. 

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